i feel for you, fil. having lost a brother myself challenged my family's dynamics up to a higher level. it's never the same when one member's down.
you'd never feel the pinch until you realise that he's not there whenever a celebration comes. be it birthdays or raya.
i've never told anyone this but come every raya, i feel so ashamed or rather, pathetic, reason being, my household isn't like many others - getting fresh coats of paints, new curtains and whatnots where they're all geared up for the celebration. but mine? we just keep everything to a minimal. yes, we're still grieving after 7 years. over here, noone tells anyone about their longing to have the old times back. we just let the days past with what's left.
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tag replies:
azzie: yes. well now you know! heh.
sara: 8th october. 8th october. keep chanting that and we'll meet soon hokays. aku rindu kau jugak.